How To Survive Long Distance Relationships

by Kent Pinkerton

One of the great obstacles to maintaining a healthy relationship these days occurs when jobs or other situation put physical distance between the two partners. This ultimately leads to what is called a long distance relationship that neither party may have been prepared for in the beginning. Long distance relationships require special skills to keep the connection strong and the communication flowing between the couple. The good news is that overcoming physical distances is a lot easier to accomplish than overcoming emotional distances between people. That is, if the two parties handle the situation correctly.

Even the most connected, loving couples need some extra skills to overcome the possible damage to the relationship imposed by long distance separation. To begin with, sex between them is gone as they have known it in the past. Without sex, and without the other partner looking over their shoulder, long distance relationships often meet a quick end as either or both parties find new sexual partners.

The key here is to practice abstinence. Perhaps a bit of risque conversation over the phone, late at night, might keep the partners from looking elsewhere to satisfy their sexual urges. It may seem a bit odd at first, having these sexual encounters over the phone with your mate, but it will help you make it over the rough patches of being separated.

The next biggest hurdle to overcome when physically separated is communication. Obviously, with today’s technology, staying in touch is a lot easier than it was years ago. Cell phones, palm pilots and the internet make reaching out to touch somebody easy and simple. The key here is what is being discussed between the two separated partners. Complaining, whining about life, and otherwise badgering the absent partner will only make that distance seem even farther. Take the time to speak tenderly to each other, make the best use of your distance by reminding each other how much you love each other and the distance between you will simply disappear. These two easy tricks and a little common sense about your long distance relationship will help the relationship survive the separation.