5 Traits Of A Good Couple

Do you want to be the couple that everyone is talking about? Mike Thorburn gives you a head start.

We’ve all seen them – the couple that’s too good to be true. They never seem to fight or argue, and both strangers and friends try to figure out how they make it work. While it clearly varies from couple to couple, most all of them have a few common traits. With the notable exception of one, all the others can readily be applied to relationships you have with your coworkers, friends, and family. If you see all these qualities in the relationships in your life, more power to you. If not, you’ll need to learn a thing or two!

Honesty

The ability for a couple to communicate with truthfulness is crucial to a relationship’s success. Far too often relationships get mired in posturing and it negatively affects its quality. An honest response is like removing a band-aid: It hurts for a second, but ultimately it’s much better than picking at it slowly.

Similarly, white lies and selective honesty slowly eat away at the foundation of a relationship, and before long the dynamic completely changes, and not for the better.

Flexibility

“Compromise” is a word that all couples learn to embrace. No two people ever have the exact same preferences and we’re all saddled with our own quirks. Finding a balance is a serious challenge, but infinitely rewarding.

Taking your girl shopping after she lets you watch the football game in peace isn’t much of a sacrifice for anyone, when you get right down to it, and both of you end up happy with your day. This semi-cliche example is reflective of larger issues in your relationship. While someone always ends up wearing the pants, it’s healthy for both people to have a sizeable amount of control regarding what’s going on in the relationship

Sex

Sex is key. That’s all there is to it and I don’t need to elaborate on this one too much. While sexual compatibility can become a quick-fix solution to other problems in a relationship, incompatibility can have the inverse effect.

Now I’m not an advocate of ending a relationship if everything is amazing but the sex doesn’t wake the neighbors, but sex does go a long way in giving a relationship more potential to become serious and long lasting. Total sexual incompatibility is a hurdle that can be overcome, but it’s no easy endeavor, and a lot of thought should go into it before you try.

Independence

One of the hardest things for individuals in a relationship to cope with is being away from their partner, but it’s a skill that has to be mastered. All too often you see relationships that consume one or both of the people involved. They live and die by their partner and being so overly dependent on one person is never a good thing. While your significant other should be just that, you are your own person and you must never forget that.

Trust

This is the biggie. Everything I’ve talked about above relates to trust. If you trust a complete stranger to make sure your brakes work, how can you not trust your partner? Trust is a guiding factor behind honesty and flexibility. We all know how much trust is involved in the bedroom.

It’s a fact that not all people are trustworthy and you might even be dating one as we speak. Nevertheless, if you’re sitting at home wondering if the other person is getting into trouble, the relationship isn’t good for you, nor your sanity. The strongest couples I’ve ever seen are able to control any jealousy that might arise because they know there’s nothing to worry about.

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Despite my brevity, I hope this article has outlined what makes good relationships tick. We all know they aren’t easy, but when pointed in the right direction, most everyone can make a relationship work.

Focus on these five qualities and you’ll find yourself happier, more fulfilled, and more productive. Good luck!